A New Dad Reaches Out
Posted on April 10th, 2008 – 2:02 PMBy May Chen
From Cribsheet’s mailbox…
hello…
i just came across your blog…
i’m a proud new father (originally from mpls, now in los angeles) who is definitely in the process of managing changing priorities.
i’m doing it on my own (my wife passed away the day after our baby was born).
i’ll be reading your blog often (while baby sleeps). i’m finding much of the content very helpful.
i’m writing a bit about my experiences.
some of the language is a little blue, but i can’t help it.
it’s been a tough two weeks.
matt
23 Responses to "A New Dad Reaches Out"
I don’t even know where to begin but I felt I had to comment. I went to your website and was so moved by your writing and all of the great pictures of your baby! You are already an amazing Dad and you can tell that you love that little girl more than anything in the world. That’s all your wife would’ve wanted! Being a parent is the most difficult and the most rewarding thing in the world. I can’t even imagine doing it alone. Just remember that it doesn’t matter how many diapers you go through or how long it takes you to make a bottle as long as that baby is loved she will grow into an amazing person! And with you as an example she will also be incredibly strong and brave! I know an “I’m sorry” doesn’t even begin to fix what you’ve lost but the entire Crib Sheets community is thinking of you and praying for your family! Best of luck with your beautiful daughter!
Matt, I visited your website and was moved to tears - by your tribute to Liz and by the unbelievably touching photos of you with your beautiful daughter. My goodness… words fail me right now. I want to say welcome to Cribsheet - I hope you find support here. Blessings to you and Madeline.
Matt, I’ve been following your story since I saw Liz’s obituary. I have never meet either of you but I am also a Minneapolis native. Please know that all sorts of people are thinking of, praying for and holding you and Madeline up during this tough time. Thank you for reaching out during your time of grief and sharing your story with us. Your writing and photography is a talent and we have been blessed by it. Take care and know you are loved by so many.
Hugs to you and Madeline.
Matt, as others I honestly don’t have words to say to express my feelings after learning of your story. You are an amazing person and we are all thinking of you often. I pray you find comfort from this site and your friends and family. Please keep us all updated on ways we can help beyond the Memorial Fund.
Oh, my. No words. Except that, Matt, I hope you are able to check in on Cribsheet and comment here often. I suspect that someone in your situation will have some very enlightening (aka butt-kicking) remarks for those of us who too often find ourselves fretting about the small stuff.
Matt– Welcome. I am so very sorry for your deep loss. You and your beautiful daughter will be in my prayers. My one word of advice which you do not really seem to need is LOVE your daughter and you will succeed amazingly well as a parent.
blessings
Matt,
My heart goes out to you. You have amazing courage. Madeline is very lucky to have you as her dad. Please continue to write when you are able. Know that you have an absolutely beautiful daughter.
thanks to everyone for the kind words and support. i can’t tell you how much i appreciate it.
Matt,
I am sorry for your loss. Your blog is a great way to keep the memories “alive”. Please continue to write! You have a beautiful daughter who will love to read about her growing days and about her special, beautiful,and loving Mommy. Your doing a wonderful job with Madeline - stay strong! Sending much happiness to you Matt!
Matt,
Congratulations on your beautiful daughter! At the same time, I am so sorry for your loss of your wife - wow! Know that you and Madeline are in my thoughts and prayers. Enjoy every minute with that new baby - she’ll grow up so fast.
Good luck to you both.
Dear Matt - I join the others in sharing my sympathy and sending you strength through my thoughts. I can’t imagine what you are going through. If it isn’t too painful or might be cathartic please share more about what happened to Liz. It’s so hard for me to understand how such a tragedy can still occur.
Matt, I will be keeping you and Madeline in my thoughts and prayers. She is lucky to have such a strong and dedicated father. May you continue to find peace and friendship in your life, and thanks for sharing your story.
Matt - It has been two days since I read your entry on Cribsheet and I cannot stop thinking about you and little Maddie. She is so blessed to have such a great daddy in you and I thank you for sharing your story (life!) with us. As a mother of two young children my patience is often tested but having read your story - I am again reminded how much I need to work on not sweating the small stuff. I cannot imagine what you must be going through and I send my positive thoughts and prayers your way -
Hi Matt,
I think I’ve looked at your blog about 10 times since I first discovered it (thanks to Cribsheet) around noon today. Like Darcie said, I can’t stop thinking about you, Liz and Madeline. What an amazing and beautiful family you have. Thank you for sharing your story with us and, again like other readers said, reminding us not to sweat the small stuff and never take a moment with our loved ones for granted. You are an amazing husband and father and Madeline is so lucky to have you. I’ll be keeping both of you in my thoughts and prayers and be “checking in” on you often. Take good care!!
As a mother and an OB RN, I’m wondering what happened to Liz? I’ve read as much as I can find but nowhere does it say what caused the very untimely death of your beautiful, loving wife.
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Dear Matt, I read your story in the Star Tribune today and I was so moved by it all. Such a wonderful dad you are and Madeline will grow up in this fantastic environment that you are giving her. I am so sorry for your loss but, know that Liz is with you everyday and she would be so proud of what you are giving to the daughter that you both created. Both you and Madeline will be in my heart and prayers as you go along this road together. God be with you.
Dear Matt, First of all I just want to say that your story has touched my heart in a way I cannot even explain. From the moment I opened my newspaper this morning, until now when I finally had the chance to write to you, I have been thinking about you and your new daughter, and of course your beautiful wife Liz. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I read your story, and looked at the pictures and I can see how much strength that you have. I don’t know if I could push on the way you have. Your daughter is extremely beautiful and so precious. I am in tears right now as I keep glancing at your pictures in the paper. You are an amazing person, and always know that people from all over will be thinking of you from this day on. I know I will never forget your story, and you will be in my prayers from this day on. I wish you all of the best for you and Madeline. You definitely have alot of people behind you!!
Dear Matt, I sit here on the 28th (my 38th birthday) writing to you. Your story in the paper yesterday really hit home for me. You see, like I said I was born 38 years ago today, and tomorrow will be the 38th anniversary of the day MY mom died. Like your wife Liz my mom had a blood clot and died the day after she had me (she also had a C-section). All I can say is take it one day at a time and make sure your little girl knows that it wasn’t her fault that her mommy died, I know I wish I had been told that. You see unlike your story, I am the youngest of 6 kids and there are 10 years between my brother that is closest to me and myself, so I always had kids tease me that I must have been an oopps, not knowing my story and not really wanting to always share my story! People always felt really bad for making that comment after they found out my situation.. Take care and you and your little angel will be in my thoughts and prayers!
This is a repost, I also posted under Matt and Liz’s story.
To anyone that is interested in contributing formula checks to Matt, please email me at aliciadieder@gmail.com and I will give you my mailing address and I can forward onto Matt.
Here is how you get these checks. The formula companies, Similac, Enfamil, Goodstart, etc. will give family members of infants checks for formula. Grandparents and other family members can sign up also - limit one per household (not just parents). A lot of moms on message boards will trade their checks of the brands they are not using, so I would encourage you to sign up at multiple websites so you can trade for Similac checks if you frequent any message boards.
Similac website: https://welcomeaddition.com/joinnow.aspx
Enfamil website:
https://www.meadjohnson.com/app/iwp/ConsumerRegisterLoadConsentInfo.do
Good Start website:
http://www.verybestbaby.com/Public/Default.aspx
Matt, I am sorry for the loss of your wife. You do indeed have a beautiful baby girl and just from what I have read on your blog, you are already an amazing daddy to her. She is a child who many people are praying for and people will be coming out of the woodwork for years to come. Once again I am sorry about your situation but keep on loving your baby and everything will work out eventually.
