Recession Obsession
Posted on November 13th, 2008 – 11:38 AMBy May Chen
Lately, I’ve struggled to come up with things to say on Cribsheet. (What, you think this is easy? Just ask Ann Z…. )
Should I link to that NYT piece on home births in tiny New York apartments? (Reminder: tell your neighbors in advance so they don’t start worrying when they hear muffled moans and screams through the walls) Or that piece about how the older you get, the harder it is to keep off the love handles? (Like Michelle Slatalla, I too have given up the daily glass of wine at dinner for calorific reasons. Like her, I have embarked on a serious exercise regimen, including training for a 25k race. And like her, I have lost the grand total of one pound. Unlike her, I do not wear Spanx.)
What about that new web site my co-worker Tom heard about at an event last night? Called Tumblon, it helps you track your child’s growth and development.
All great topics…so why is nothing grabbing me?
Driving in this morning, listening to job loss numbers on MPR, I finally figured it out: I am just obsessed with the economy.
Each day, I listen in rapt attention as talking heads pontificate on how bad things are. Is it as bad as 2001? Or the early 80’s? Or, gasp, the Great Depression? Whose job is going to be cut next? How’s all this going to affect my family?
We’ve talked about this at home. My husband Chris has done an audit of our spending and decided that with a little discipline and not too much pain, we can slash our food bill way down. He’s planning the week’s meals in advance now and shopping more at Cub, instead of running out to Lund’s at the last minute. I stack less on my lunch tray at the cafeteria these days. We’re not eating out as often; the weekly jaunts with the kids to D’Amico’s are now a distant memory.
Like everyone else, our retirement savings got bashed. Like everyone else, the value of our house plunged. So far, our household income remains the same. But you can’t help but think, what if?
We even went on a Staycation (stayed for a Staycation?). Last weekend, for my birthday, my mother-in-law (aka The Saint), took the girls so my husband and could celebrate. But instead of driving or flying somewhere, we stayed home and just had a nice time in town.
We watched a one-woman show at the Lab Theater in the warehouse district, Rene Foss’ “Around the World in a Bad Mood” (it was fine, but I think you have to be a flight attendant to really identify. Instead of, say, hapless passengers.) We went to the Nagisa Oshima film fest at the Walker (b/w, violent, mystifying, come to think of it, perfectly appropriate recession viewing). We swam and worked out at the Y. And we went shopping at Rosedale Mall for the first time. (It was packed. Don’t these people know there’s a recession going on?)
Okay, now I’ve got that out of my system, I can go back to blogging about babies. What’s that new web site again?
Cribsheeters, are you feeling the effects of the economy? What are you cutting back on?
11 Responses to "Recession Obsession"
Yes! We don’t order out weekly…maybe monthly and that’s a pretty big maaaaybe.
We car pool.
I do not go to play dates out of a five mile radius…
And meal plan, meal plan, meal plan…
I have fallen in love with consignment shops and second hand stores for clothes and toys. (They’re the best for toys.)
Two weeks ago, I just about did a little dance next to the gas pump when I realized it only cost $24 to fill up my car!! And amazingly enough, I didn’t go to Starbucks to celebrate. I’m still a little too scared….
Thanks for addressing the pink (stuffed?) elephant in the (play)room. The economy has cast a pallor on every detail of living and family life is no exception.
I find I don’t even want think about Christmas this year. Ugh.
We’ve cut back so much that I’m no longer worried about someday becoming my mother. I’ve become my Grandma.
Sadly, I have to say that I’m most tempted to cut back on giving. It seems an easy thing to trim because WE don’t feel it.
We’re eating out less and skipping the lattes and making coffee at home more. We’re playing at home more and looking for more free stuff to do with the kids. I hope that Macy’s “A Day in the Life of an Elf” display is cool this year, we may go every week since it’s free. For Chritmas our gift exchange with the adults in our life will be very small and we’ll all just get a few things for the kids. I feel a little guilty that we are going on vacation to Florida in January and should totally be saving that money, but it has been in the works since before things became so dire and honestly, we haven’t had a vacation since 2005. Even then, we’ll save money on vacation by eating at the house we’re renting and not going out too much.
We started remodeling our house before the economy slowdown happened, so we were already cutting back a lot. But now we are cutting back even more.
We’re scaling christmas back but our kids are young so I don’t think they will know the difference. We haven’t been eating out, or ordering out when we’re tired. I think we are just paying a lot more attention to where it all goes every month.
We like to eat out, even if its just at the local Perkins! I saw they have a special where kids eat free on Tues. and Sat. after 4pm, that would save a few dollars at least.
My husband and I have lived on a budget for 2 years now so I can stay home with the kids. It’s always a challenge to stretch those dollars, but I had a very good summer hitting garage sales. My kids are very young and can not tell the difference between an Elmo DVD that I picked up $1.00 or a shrink wrapped one from Best Buy. I also found brand new-in-the-box toys this year and clothes with tags still on. I can not believe the size of the pile of gifts these kids are getting for Christmas this year and I only spent about $80!
We’re cutting back on eating out. Meal plans really help because I already know what I’m going to be making that week, so I don’t have to try and figure it out that night, which usually ends up with us just grabbing something on the way home.
DH is taking his lunch to work.
I’ve been selling stuff around the house.
Budget, budget, budget. This is the second month we’ve had a budget and know exactly where every dollar is going.
I’m a fundraiser for a nonprofit - so I am thinking about the economy all the time, both professionally and personally. In response to the comment above about cutting back on giving - I know that it seems like an easy place to trim - but I really hope folks will keep in mind that this is truly the year to try to give more. If people at the middle class level are feeling the pinch - and I know we all are - folks who are truly struggling for the basics: food, clothing, shelter - are struggling that much more. I have a 16 month old, but I hope as he grows, that he will learn our philanthropic values. Its tough to think about giving more, but I know there are people just on the margins of survival, right here in our town.
Sorry for the long post - just some food for thought…
Amy
Your co-worker must have gone to the same event that my husband went to, since he just showed me that same site.
Shortly after sitting down to talk about how we were doing with the downturn (we were feeling ok), my husband found out he would be laid off at the end of Oct., so we were all of a sudden staring this in the face. Like everyone else, we’ve cut back on eating out, and doing activities that cost money, I started being serious about bringing my lunch to work, and we pushed expenses like getting Zoe’s new glasses off to next year. We also stopped giving to any political campaigns. He has since gotten a new job that he’ll start next month, but I think we’ll be sticking with our new spending habits for the time being.


